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Making Changes Means Making Choices

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Yesterday I talked about fixed vs growth mindset and what they both mean. I want to explore that further today.

One of the most common ways fixed mindsets inhabit our lives is by too easily accepting limitations without question. We might not believe we have the money to take that scary leap, the time to learn that new skill, or the marketing acumen to launch that new business venture. But the truth is that if you want it badly enough you can find a way.

Part of the mindset shift is to see your situation in the context of the choices you make rather than the circumstances you find yourself in.

You could CHOOSE to quit your job tomorrow and travel the world. It could be as simple as getting an Uber to the airport and getting on a plane to wherever. What’s stopping you?

The choice you’re making is you don’t want to run out of money in Bratislava and find out that the landlord sent all your belongings to the dump because they hadn’t heard from you in months. You might also lose your job and that money you’d been saving up to buy a house could disappear in one high stakes card game in Monaco.

These are all consequences of your choice. You know this, so instead of flying off to wherever you choose to stay at your job, pay rent every month and plan out your trip for another time.

But if you want to work on your own growth and change your life it’s going to require some choices that could cause quite a shake up. They might not be as drastic as disappearing suddenly for an around the world trip, but that new skill you need to learn might require spending a lot of money or cutting down your work hours, which could leave you with less money for other things. Will you do it?

If it’s getting you closer to the life you want to live, the growth mindset will find a way. The fixed mindset might avoid the whole dilemma and say it can’t be done.

I’ll be hosting a mini workshop / discussion on this topic via Zoom on Thursday, December 16, at 1 p.m. PST. I’d love to have you join! The link to sign up is right here.

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